Published on November 2nd, 2015 | by Noah's Hope -- Lita Shulenberger0
Noah’s Hope: Getting rid of ‘it’
Have you ever run into someone you haven’t seen for a while and said something like this:
“Hi Sally, it’s good to see you! Where is your husband?”
Sally replies, “Oh, I got rid of it.”
Does that sound weird? Of course it does, no one would call their spouse “it.” So why do people think nothing of calling a dog “it,” as if he or she is an object?
Grammar-wise, both a husband and a dog are nouns, therefore, when speaking of a living being, the personal pronouns he or she would be used. If we don’t know the sex of a dog it’s natural to call “it” an “it,” but what about the person who owns the dog? Why do they do it?
Mostly, this is a rhetorical question. People do this out of habit or because so many rules of the English language have changed and nobody pays attention anymore as the terminology becomes second nature.
In some cases, however, the reason for this might be psychological and most people aren’t even aware of it. If you listen closely to conversations about a dog that is new, healthy and happy, you will notice the use of the pronouns he or she. The use of “it” comes into the conversation if the dog is difficult, sick or old. Unconsciously we distance ourselves from the dog in anticipation of losing it or in some cases, “getting rid of it” or “putting it down.” By doing this we become emotionally detached. The dog becomes an object, making it easier for us to make difficult decisions without grief or guilt, but we also rob ourselves of the joys that come with loving without reservations.
Even if we aren’t aware of distancing ourselves this way, our furry friends are certainly aware of it. Dogs are incredibly sensitive to our emotions and as we pull away from them, they instinctively pull in closer to us. Their whole world revolves around us and they love us unconditionally, even if we are old, sick, or difficult.
Is there a solution to this dilemma? Yes, but it’s not an easy one. Dogs live their whole lives loving without reservation with wagging tails, excited barking and happy dances. Maybe we should strive to be more like them.
William W. Purkey said it best: “You’ve gotta dance like no one is watching, sing like nobody is listening, and love like you’re never going to get hurt.”
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